Stress and weddings just seem to be terms that go together. When I first got engaged so many people would make comments like, “Good luck with planning!”, “If you ever need to get away from the stress of planning just hit me up!”, or “Don’t stress the little things”. By just hearing from past brides how stressful wedding planning could be, I was stressing! The amount of times I typed into my google search bar “How to stay stress free while planning my wedding” was a ridiculously large amount considering this was supposed to be one of the happiest moments of my life!
Now that I can say I’ve successfully planned my own wedding I do have a couple tips that might help you feel just the tiniest bit less stressed.
- Whether it be your venue, food, photography, or your attire. Pick the 3 things that are the most important to you and make them priority over everything else. Budget wise make sure that you leave yourself enough money to get what you really want and when it comes to time management make sure you leave yourself enough time to put the proper effort and time into researching vendors or making those centerpieces! Whatever they happen to be try not to compromise on them.
- Unless you want your family to be making 90% of the decisions don’t let them rule your day. It’s still your wedding whether they are paying for part of it or they just really want to be involved. You make sure to make decisions that both you and your significant other agree on, not decisions that make your family happy.
- On the note of family members don’t feel like you have to include every cousin or aunt. Sometimes you just want to do things yourself and that’s okay! It’s more important for you to be happy with the outcome then to include every family member in your family tree.
- When it comes to your wedding party pick people that you know will see your vision and will be there to help you when you need it! Part of the responsibility of being in your wedding party is being there for you and help when you need it. They are going to be one of your biggest support systems so make sure you pick people who will be there for you!
- Everything doesn’t need to be perfect. It’s okay if one of your centerpieces doesn’t look exactly the same as the rest! And it’s also okay if you ran out of time and didn’t make that fun kissing game you saw on pinterest! No one is going to notice and no will say anything to you about it if they do.
- Pinterest is great. But pinterest also sets the bar really high. So if your candy bar doesn’t look exactly like that picture on your pinterest board, don’t stress it! It’s beautiful and all anyone is going to be saying on your wedding day about it is, “Did you hear they made all their own decor? It looks so professional!”
But, the best advice I could give someone who is planning their wedding is that stress is a given. No matter what you do you’ll get frazzled and you’ll get upset. It’s a big day and you have a lot of work ahead of you when it comes to planning. So don’t worry about it and when you feel stressed, that’s okay. If I was the kind of person that put motivational quotes on my mirror or around the house I would have put this everywhere! It really helped me to take a moment to just breath. It’s okay to get upset, because something isn’t working out how you had hoped. It’s also okay to admit that you’re stressing over something small that probably won’t even be noticed on the day of, but it means something to you right now and if you have to be bridezilla. You be bridezilla!
~Teri, Imagine Events